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Girl, Interrupted

B00003CWQR.01.LZZZZZZZ.jpgAnother case from Florida. Another crazy parent inflicting pain upon their child out of desperation and, maybe, even love. But don’t dismiss her yet:

A 39-year-old woman forcefully had her 13-year-old daughter’s genitalia pierced to make it uncomfortable for her to have sex, the girl told jurors in her mother’s child abuse trial.
The girl, now 16, told jurors Wednesday that her mother asked a tattoo artist friend in 2004 to shave the girl’s head to make her unattractive to boys and later held her down for the piercing.

It seems the mother found out that her daughter was sexually active and was even having sex with the mother’s boyfriend. Tired of dealing with her rebelliousness and in an effort to curtail the behavior, she had her daughter get the piercing. Originally, the daughter consented to the piercing in order to rebuild her mother’s broken trust. Child welfare officials got involved after the piercing got infected.

The mother’s defense attorney also added:

“It wasn’t torture or extreme violence,” [Defense attorney Donald] Day said. “It was, in the young girl’s words, to try to save her. … That decision was a last-ditch effort. In my client’s mind, she had no other options.”

Frankly, if the girl was so out of control that this was the only option left, her mother should have just cut her loose. Children who feel they are grown enough to act in such a manner to warrant such an extreme reaction apparently think they have life figured out, and need to learn that they don’t. I do not agree with the mother’s actions, but I understand the reasons behind them. It may sound cruel, but if the only thing she has to worry about is an infected piercing instead of an STD or a child she can’t take care of, she should count her blessings.

The mother is charged with two counts of aggravated child abuse, and is looking at up to 30 years if convicted. The tattoo artist was given a year for her role, and an arrest warrant has been issued for the asshole boyfriend who thought it fun to nail a 13-year-old.

UPDATE: It seems the mother was acquitted. Not only that, but it seems that the defense offered a plea deal for a reduced sentence, but the judge would not accept it, believing the mother needed harsher punishment.

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This is disgusting. No wonder the daughter was so out of control, with a mother who uses mutilation as a disciplinary device. The tattoo artist should have had her license revoked; who in their right mind would participate in such a thing? The girl had to be held down! That's appalling.

I cannot begin to communicate the outrage I feel at this post. A mother discovers her boyfriend is molesting her daughter, and you, Quizlaw, blame the "slut" daughter.

Ditto, Anonymous. I'm kind of shocked right now. Vermillion, I expected better from you.

I never blamed the daughter for what the boyfriend did to her. I even acknowledged that the guy was a scumbag on the highest order. But, I don't believe that excuses the daughter's actions either. And from the reports I could find on the case, nearly everyone who knew the mother and daughter said that the girl was out of control, and that the mother had tried everything to help her. Even the daughter herself admitted that she was hurting her mother, and volunteered to get the piercing.

For a myriad of personal reason not appropriate to state here, I empathized with the mother more, plain and simple. You can read into that whatever you wish.

I have to say after studying Female Genital Mutilation in college and traveled to Africa to see first hand pictures of girls ages 5-20 who had family members pierce or cut them in order to keep them virgins or otherwise prevent them from being promiscuous, that i find this mother's behavior to be extreme. FGM is excused in their country because of the AIDS crisis, and i find it to be a faulty and unsuccessful solution. Women who have had this done to them as childrens have had serious infection, the damage has caused an inability to ever appreciate sex, difficulties urinating, and even death. I do not find that if "the only thing she has to worry about is an infected piercing instead of an STD or a child she can’t take care of, she should count her blessings." The daughter has been victimized by her mother cutting her hair to make her unattractive and piercing her as well as the boyfriend molesting her. Just because in her testimony she said her mother did it out of love and because she was unruly, does not make her less of a victim. I dont believe the mother deserved a charge of aggrevated child abuse, but i believe she should have some punishment. Just because the mother had been abused as a child herself, does not make this any less child abuse, in many cases abused become abusers...I have a hard time believing she could find no other recourse. only in Florida...