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Obama Wins! Gays Lose.

gayadoption.jpgBeyond the elation of seeing the first black man elected President, there were some deep disappointments in last night’s election. Apparently, as a country, we can come together behind a black man, but we’re still a long way from fully accepting homosexuality. Two states passed constitutional amendments to ban gay marriage, and — though it’s not official — it appears that California has also banned gay marriage, becoming the first state in America to extend same-sex marriage rights only to strip them away just a few months later. God, that’s depressing.

For me, what’s even more depressing is the fact that, in my home state of Arkansas, they passed an initiative, fairly overwhelmingly, banning gay couples from adopting. What the fuck? As a friend of mine in Arkansas wrote, “All children need homes.” Arkansas has just taken away thousands of opportunities for those children to get them.

That’s really upsetting. Apparently, loving someone of the same sex precludes someone from loving a child.

We’ve come a long way, folks. But we still have a long ways to go.

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Yeah, I was watching those ballot measures and getting so sad. I don't understand what is so threatening about allowing people to officially proclaim their commitment to each other.

WTF California?! Just months ago, I was so proud of my state for legalizing gay marriage, and now this. What a bittersweet election.

As for prop 4, I'm hoping the pro-lifers will take the hint, and stop trying to get parental notification passed. Sadly, I don't think that will happen, and a similar prop will show up on the next ballot. I can't believe all the money wasted on this shit! Do something productive with your time and money to prevent the need for abortions!

Everyone who voted against abortion or gay adoption rights should have to go out right now and adopt a child.

I wish one of these days someone who voted for this crap would explain to me what it is that threatens them so much about letting gay people enter into a legally binding contract. I keep asking conservatives I meet and they just give me looks and some obscure passage from the Old Testament that has nothing to do with contractual rights.

One conservative I know just keeps alluding to hidden economic costs to gay marriage... which he never expands upon. Don't married couples pay more taxes? I is confuzzled. But then, he also goes on to insist that because he doesn't know much about "homosexual culture" he worries that there's some kind of hidden seamy underbelly of sexual violence and pedophilia, and that legalizing gay marriage would legitimize it, NAMBLA-style. I have no fucking idea.

Seriously. I keep trying to explain to my very conservative Catholic family that their religious beliefs have nothing to do with civil law and they get very het up. My dad nearly had a heart attack when I went a little too far and suggested that we reserve the term "marriage" for people united in a religious ceremony and "civil union" for people united in a civil ceremony, regardless of orientation.

even worse - the arkansas measure shows that the anti-gays are getting wilier. they already tried to outlaw gay adoption, and it was struck down. so this time, it's all unmarried people. so nice life partners of all stripes - and caring single parents - are now ineligible to be foster or adoptive parents. it would be almost elegant if it weren't so repellent and detrimental to the health of children.

I'm from Arkansas as well, but currently living in Mississippi. I deliberately voted absentee in AR rather than registering in MS, specifically b/c I wanted to vote against the initiative. It fills me with despair to realize that the fundamentalists will never, ever, never understand the separation between Church and State. It terrifies me that people are trying to enact laws based on THEIR religion that affect MY rights.

It's sickening - Arkansas voters care more about spreading hate than providing a loving, stable home for a child. I don't understand why all of these gay marriage / gay adoption bans aren't thrown out, since they are clearly a violation of the separation of church and state. Oh that's right, Americans hate anything considered "unnatural," which is why we shun things like air-conditioning and spray tans. ;-P

As a Californian who worked hard on the No on 8 campaign, I was in a somber mood when the results were clear. But I will say this: 8 years ago, when Prop 22 was on the ballot, it passed with 61.4% approval and 38.6% against. This time around, there was only a 4 point difference. We convinced a whole hell of a lot of people that same-sex couples deserve marriage, plus we have a new generation of voters. We may have lost Prop 8, but we sure did raise some consciousness about LGBT issues in the state of California: the numbers prove that.

Also, can I got a hallelujah: every statewide proposition (California, Colorado, and South Dakota) attempting to limit access to abortion was DENIED. America is still heavily Pro-Choice! That there is worth a celebration.

Bittersweet? I suppose the 'sweet' part you are referring to is the election of the candidate whose campaign spent millions of dollars targeting the traditionally low-voter-turnout black bigots, getting them registered to vote, and mobilizing an unprecedented ground team to ensure they made it to the polls to vote for him, Hope, Change We Can Believe In, and - since they were already there - strip millions of gay men and lesbians of their 'inalienable' [sic] constitutional rights.

Can a people who are still trying to realize the constitutional rights they have had for a century and a half really be so ignorant, hateful, and eager to oppress another people merely because they are different than they appear to themselves. Yes they can.

I've spent more time arguing with my mother about her 'generational' racism than I have defending my own homosexuality...and I've spent years doing the latter. As someone who is from a community of outsiders, without the benefit of being able to grow up within that community, but within families to whom we were also outsiders: my natural orientation is to put myself in another person's shoes and not automatically see someone who looks different than I do as having a value less than or more than any other human being.

I value a person according to their actions. Hate filled people who act to deny another persons of their Universal Human Rights, as did the vast majority of black voters (alongside the self-righteous religious Radical Right and white supramacists who voted for these constitutional amendments) lose their claim to those rights. I am a person of faith. It is an article of my faith, and the answer to my prayers, that such people get exactly what they deserve

BTW - Barack Obama is NOT the first black President. He is the SIXTH mixed race (black and white) US President (that we know of) after: Thomas Jefferson, Andrew Jackson, Abraham Lincoln, Warren Harding, and Calvin Coolidge. These mulatto predecessors of course all passed for 100% white - though not all of them denied the mixed lineage. This country is still waiting to elect its first black president. Barack Obama chose to adopt that name and black culture (decades after growing up in an exclusively white and financially privileged family) only when he began to create the persona that would best serve his political ambitions).

If you are basing your faith in him on what he appears to be rather than who he really is, you should consider: that is, at the root, the definition of what a racist does.